Relationships today have become all about showing more to the world than what they really are. Themed weddings are more important than a couples’ mutual understanding. Birthday parties are all about the number of people present rather than celebrating with those who matter. Bigger houses are more comfortable so that everyone can live as privately as possible. However, as living becomes grander, our personal relationships seem to get more and more fragile. Let’s dig deeper to find out how emotionally healthy relationships can be achieved.
Not only are men and women different, no two men are the same and no two women are the same either. It is crucial to accept this fact in order to attain any sort of healthy relationship possible. A major reason for broken relationships is the fact that we, as a society, have become intolerant. Where there are massive appeals for equality on one hand, even a minor difference of opinion is unacceptable on the other. Therefore, diversity is what makes a healthy community, and accepting it starts from your own family.
We often feel the need to smother our loved ones emotionally, due to our own insecurities. Fear of abandonment only pushes others away, since it makes us over-protective, over-possessive and jealous. If your loved one has other friends or family who they are close to, it in no way makes you any less important for them. Giving them space will make it more comfortable for them to come to you themselves. Furthermore, they will learn to trust and respect your personal space as well, since giving space means that you seek your own as well.
Sacrifice Ego for Love
It is common for people to have high expectations from loved ones, and when they aren’t fulfilled, disappointment quickly turns into anger. It is imperative that you do not cling on to this anger because once anger turns into ego, it can become dangerous. Our ego blinds us from what is really important and lures us to make impulsive decisions. In the long run, it leads to loads of regret and emotional instability. Therefore, make it a point that even if you are right, think about how helpful it will be to let ego stand in the way of a loving relationship.
Sharing has a lot of meanings when it comes to your loved ones. It means sharing your material things, since people are more important than possessions. It means sharing someone emotionally and not being possessive about them. Furthermore, sharing refers to sharing your thoughts and feelings with your loved ones. When you talk to others, you invoke a strong sense of trust and emotional bond in them. In addition, it helps them open up and talk to you as well. Hiding important facts about yourself might make them think that they are not important enough for you, which is why either they will stop trying, or be emotionally distant as well.
Giving time is one of the most important things that people today have forgotten how to do. Giving time, whether it is your family or friends, means that you need to leave everything else and give them attention. When it comes to a family unit, take out certain parts of the day to actually sit with your parents or children, and just talk whether there is something relevant to talk about or not. Similarly, with friends, leave the phone for a while and just talk to them with eye contact. Furthermore, when it comes to the spouse, again, talk about your day whether it was exciting or not. Talking to people while they are there is more important than socializing with hundreds of uninterested people on social media.
All in all, it is important for you to know that your relationships stay with you forever. Furthermore, our relationships are what define our characters as individuals. It is easy to be judgmental about others, but we must see where they are from and what they have gone through. Those of us who are privileged enough to have love and support in our lives should cherish it, rather than taking it for granted.